Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…

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If you are experiencing pain when having or attempting to have intercourse, you are certainly not alone. According to an article published in Harvard Health, “Millions of women experience pain before, during or after sexual intercourse. Many women suffer in silence and don’t seek the help they need, or they have trouble finding a clinician who…

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It doesn’t really matter if they’re diagnosed or not (they rarely are).  A person with narcissistic traits/tendencies/ issue may be (almost) as difficult to deal with in real life, so it doesn’t really matter.  Narcissism is on a spectrum and a matter of degree.  We’re all just a little bit narcissistic, aren’t we?  What we’re…

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The last few things I’ll add about self-care… As we’ve been exploring, self-care isn’t just about a bubble bath and exercise.  Think outside the box and find new ways to rejuvenate your energetic supply.  There isn’t a prescription and it will evolve for you over time.  Sometimes we may need a lot more or different…

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1. Accessibility There just are not a lot of trained, experienced and certified sex therapists available.  In rural areas there aren’t even many general therapists available.  Even when there are skilled and trained therapists available, there isn’t enough anonymity for people to comfortably go to a therapist’s office in a small town because everyone will know you’re…

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Disagreements within couples can be heated, intense, scary and painful at times.  However, these same disagreements can also bring a couple much closer together and help cultivate a partnership by getting on the same page.  Relationships are difficult in part because it is a bringing together of distinctly different people with very different upbringings.  Of…

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This post has been inspired by two sources.  The first being a recent trip to Greece and the second a podcasted talk by one of my favorite resources, Tara Brach.  The particular talk is entitled, “Human Doing to Human Being.”  If you’re interested, I encourage you to listen to it because she’s able to give…

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