MARRIAGE
Letting Go of Resentment in Relationships
Resentment rarely comes from one big rupture. More often, it grows quietly—from moments that didn’t get repaired, needs that weren’t met, and hurts that were carried forward instead of spoken. In long-term relationships, resentment can start to feel permanent. Letting go doesn’t mean pretending the past doesn’t matter. It means learning to stop carrying it…
Read More“Pleasure Is the Measure”: When Women Speak Up About Pleasure
Emily Nagoski’s phrase “pleasure is the measure” is such a simple reminder and it’s a total game changer. Instead of focusing on whether sex follows the “right” sequence or looks like what you’ve seen in media, it centers the only thing that actually matters: Does it feel good for the people involved? When pleasure becomes the measure, sex…
Read MoreWhy Opening a Marriage Takes More Than Permission
Lately, more couples are talking about open marriage—not just as a fantasy, but as a real possibility. We are living in a different day in age and the idea of expanding love, desire, and connection outside a primary partnership has moved from whispers to podcasts and dinner-table debates. And yet, for every story of freedom…
Read MoreBetter Ways to Initiate Sex
Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…
Read MoreCouples Communication
Disagreements within couples can be heated, intense, scary and painful at times. However, these same disagreements can also bring a couple much closer together and help cultivate a partnership by getting on the same page. Relationships are difficult in part because it is a bringing together of distinctly different people with very different upbringings. Of…
Read MoreRelationship Issues: Ask for Help
One of the main discussion points for both couples and individuals in a relationship is the challenges of asking for help. I apologize in advance for some of the broad generalizations made along gender-lines in the rest of this blog, but this topic is somewhat gendered in the way it is expressed. However, it is…
Read MoreFavorite Resources for Relationships, Intimacy, Anxiety & Depression
I would like to share some of my absolute favorite resources that I utilize myself and often share with clients. I return to these specific resources again and again. This is just a quick guide with links to resources I use for you to discover, explore, and make your own. For Relationships & Intimacy, I…
Read MoreTherapy Tidbits: How to Be Happy in a Relationship – Premarital Counseling
People in relationships often struggle to hold onto their own identity within the partnership. This is not necessarily gendered or specific to opposite sex relationships. A long-term relationship (LTR) is the coming together of two individuals choosing to live their lives together. It really isn’t the romantic notion of “two becoming one.” This idea seems…
Read MoreTherapy Tidbits #1: Refill Your Water Jug
We all have a figurative internalized water jug that we use to pour over others in need. You pour out a little water out for your partner, a little more water for your kid(s), for a friend or two, for a coworker…and then, before you know it, your water jug is empty and you have…
Read MoreWhen To Consider Seeing a Sex Therapist
What makes a certified sex therapist different than any other kind of therapist? It really comes down to an acknowledgment of the importance of sex in our lives and relationships, the ability to talk about sex in sessions, and continued education. Sex therapists make clients feel at ease when sharing concerns they have around sexual…
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