Sexual Performance Anxiety

It’s not just a guy thing…it happens to women too. We most often think of erectile disfunction when we conceptualize sexual performance anxiety. However, most people don’t realize that some women have a version of performance anxiety as well, though it presents differently. This idea came to me as I was listening to the Savage Lovecast episode…

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Therapy Tidbits: How to Be Happy in a Relationship – Premarital Counseling

People in relationships often struggle to hold onto their own identity within the partnership.  This is not necessarily gendered or specific to opposite sex relationships. A long-term relationship (LTR) is the coming together of two individuals choosing to live their lives together.  It really isn’t the romantic notion of “two becoming one.”  This idea seems…

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Therapy Tidbits #1: Refill Your Water Jug

We all have a figurative internalized water jug that we use to pour over others in need.  You pour out a little water out for your partner, a little more water for your kid(s), for a friend or two, for a coworker…and then, before you know it, your water jug is empty and you have…

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Are you ‘Shoulding’ on Yourself?

Many of us spend a lot of time and energy thinking about how we should be feeling, what we should be doing, or what we should have done. Living in the land of shoulds usually makes us feel lost, wrong and/or bad. It is rare that a should thought is positive in nature. Most of…

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TOOLS FOR REDUCING ANXIETY

Whether you are struggling with general anxiety or acute anxiety attacks, try some of these tried and true tools for reducing anxiety: 1 – Take a deep breath and pause.  It is a cliché (they are cliché’s for a reason – they are universal truths), but taking a few deep breathes and counting to 10…

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PERFECTIONISM

I recently listened to an interview with Brené Brown on Sounds True podcast, “Insights at the Edge,” during which she discusses perfectionism.  Dr. Brown defines perfectionism and reshapes it’s meaning for us all based on her research on vulnerability and shame. In honor of Eating Disorder Awareness Week, which begins today, I thought I would…

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