RELATIONSHIPS
Self-sex is good for you…really
And, there’s even research to back it up. Self-sex is just a nice way of saying masturbation. And, yes…I am definitely saying that masturbation is healthy. It’s good for your overall health, boosts your sex life, helps your partner, improves both mind and body. Good for your overall health Orgasms are just plain good for your…
Read MoreSexual Performance Anxiety
It’s not just a guy thing…it happens to women too. We most often think of erectile disfunction when we conceptualize sexual performance anxiety. However, most people don’t realize that some women have a version of performance anxiety as well, though it presents differently. This idea came to me as I was listening to the Savage Lovecast episode…
Read MoreBetter Ways to Initiate Sex
Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…
Read MoreEver Have a Dream About Your Ex?
Dream interpretation is a fascinating area of study and just plain fun. Some dreams can be powerful, healing and insightful. Some dreams may include messages to help you heal or move forward in life. They often help you focus inward and build introspection. Other dreams may just be dreams and either you don’t really even…
Read MoreAsking for Help Can Make Your Sex Life Better
For relationships to become true partnerships, we all need to learn how to let our partner(s) know what we’re thinking…they can’t read our minds. We need to be more open and curious. Ask more questions. Ask for help. This concept isn’t gendered. I work with many men, women, non-binary and transgender folks and they all…
Read MoreCOVID19 Helps Some With Sexual Creativity
Dan Savage started incorporating a new positive sex or quarantine (pronounced like Valentine) story at the top of each Savage Lovecast episode, and I love them all. This week (episode #721) he received a story from a woman meeting a man for a second date at the beach. They discussed the idea of going snorkeling at dusk…
Read MoreCouples Communication
Disagreements within couples can be heated, intense, scary and painful at times. However, these same disagreements can also bring a couple much closer together and help cultivate a partnership by getting on the same page. Relationships are difficult in part because it is a bringing together of distinctly different people with very different upbringings. Of…
Read MoreRelationship Issues: Ask for Help
One of the main discussion points for both couples and individuals in a relationship is the challenges of asking for help. I apologize in advance for some of the broad generalizations made along gender-lines in the rest of this blog, but this topic is somewhat gendered in the way it is expressed. However, it is…
Read MoreRelationship Issues: Be Curious
I try to live my life with as much curiosity as possible. There is always more to learn if you’re open and curious. This is true for me in my line of work for sure, I’m curious about a lot when I sit with others talking about their deepest feelings and more difficult moments. I…
Read MoreFavorite Resources for Relationships, Intimacy, Anxiety & Depression
I would like to share some of my absolute favorite resources that I utilize myself and often share with clients. I return to these specific resources again and again. This is just a quick guide with links to resources I use for you to discover, explore, and make your own. For Relationships & Intimacy, I…
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