Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…

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Dream interpretation is a fascinating area of study and just plain fun. Some dreams can be powerful, healing and insightful. Some dreams may include messages to help you heal or move forward in life. They often help you focus inward and build introspection. Other dreams may just be dreams and either you don’t really even…

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For relationships to become true partnerships, we all need to learn how to let our partner(s) know what we’re thinking…they can’t read our minds. We need to be more open and curious. Ask more questions. Ask for help. This concept isn’t gendered. I work with many men, women, non-binary and transgender folks and they all…

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Dan Savage started incorporating a new positive sex or quarantine (pronounced like Valentine) story at the top of each Savage Lovecast episode, and I love them all. This week (episode #721) he received a story from a woman meeting a man for a second date at the beach. They discussed the idea of going snorkeling at dusk…

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Disagreements within couples can be heated, intense, scary and painful at times.  However, these same disagreements can also bring a couple much closer together and help cultivate a partnership by getting on the same page.  Relationships are difficult in part because it is a bringing together of distinctly different people with very different upbringings.  Of…

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One of the main discussion points for both couples and individuals in a relationship is the challenges of asking for help.  I apologize in advance for some of the broad generalizations made along gender-lines in the rest of this blog, but this topic is somewhat gendered in the way it is expressed.  However, it is…

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I try to live my life with as much curiosity as possible.  There is always more to learn if you’re open and curious.  This is true for me in my line of work for sure, I’m curious about a lot when I sit with others talking about their deepest feelings and more difficult moments.  I…

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People in relationships often struggle to hold onto their own identity within the partnership.  This is not necessarily gendered or specific to opposite sex relationships. A long-term relationship (LTR) is the coming together of two individuals choosing to live their lives together.  It really isn’t the romantic notion of “two becoming one.”  This idea seems…

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We all have a figurative internalized water jug that we use to pour over others in need.  You pour out a little water out for your partner, a little more water for your kid(s), for a friend or two, for a coworker…and then, before you know it, your water jug is empty and you have…

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