Self-sex is good for you…really

And, there’s even research to back it up. Self-sex is just a nice way of saying masturbation. And, yes…I am definitely saying that masturbation is healthy. It’s good for your overall health, boosts your sex life, helps your partner, improves both mind and body. Good for your overall health Orgasms are just plain good for your…

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Sexual Performance Anxiety

It’s not just a guy thing…it happens to women too. We most often think of erectile disfunction when we conceptualize sexual performance anxiety. However, most people don’t realize that some women have a version of performance anxiety as well, though it presents differently. This idea came to me as I was listening to the Savage Lovecast episode…

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Better Ways to Initiate Sex

Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…

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Women & Painful Sex

If you are experiencing pain when having or attempting to have intercourse, you are certainly not alone. According to an article published in Harvard Health, “Millions of women experience pain before, during or after sexual intercourse. Many women suffer in silence and don’t seek the help they need, or they have trouble finding a clinician who…

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Negotiating Sex: Let’s talk…

Sex is a taboo subject.  I know, believe me. We have been taught by parents, teachers, society, and other authorities that it’s so wrong, bad, dirty, disgusting and that it ought not be talked about aloud. Oh…and by the way, you should also be amazing at it, men know exactly what women want without any…

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Vulnerability: COVID-19

Hello. I missed writing a blog last month because, well…all hell broke loose. I write to you from my home.  Seeing my dear clients online or by phone. We’re all experiencing little human contact. Feeling vulnerable. I’m sure you can relate. This new world means that we’re going through all this together, at the same…

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Are You (Living With or) Divorcing a Narcissist?

It doesn’t really matter if they’re diagnosed or not (they rarely are).  A person with narcissistic traits/tendencies/ issue may be (almost) as difficult to deal with in real life, so it doesn’t really matter.  Narcissism is on a spectrum and a matter of degree.  We’re all just a little bit narcissistic, aren’t we?  What we’re…

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Manage Your Stress in 2020

I recently listened to a few podcasts that talked about stress reduction and thought there were a lot of good ideas.  I have been working closely with all of them myself and will attempt to share these ideas in hopes that you will find them helpful too. Reducing stress in our lives is so important. …

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