Posts by Kim Atwood, MA, LPC, CST
Pleasure is Not a 4-Letter Word
Our culture is currently living in a pleasure drought. Let’s break free. By now, we all know we live in a sex-negative society. However, do we realize that we also live in a pleasure-negative world? Pleasure has become overly connected with sex, making it somehow just as taboo a topic. This connection is a false…
Read MoreWays to (Re)Connect Spiritually
I’ve been struggling with frozen shoulder (adhesive capsulitis) for nearly a year now, but the most painful time has been over the past 6 months. I haven’t been able to stick to my typical morning routine — cardio exercise and/or strength training; stretching or yoga; and walks — due to severe, chronic pain and limited…
Read MoreHow to Soothe Your Anxiety: 10 natural remedies you can do right now to help reduce your anxiety.
Anxiety is on the rise, especially as a result of COVID19 and the global pandemic. Whether you struggle with more general anxiety or acute anxiety attacks, there are several things you can do to ease your suffering. Practice some of these tested tools to calm your anxiety: 1 — Take a deep breath. Ok, I know it’s…
Read MoreSelf-sex is good for you…really
And, there’s even research to back it up. Self-sex is just a nice way of saying masturbation. And, yes…I am definitely saying that masturbation is healthy. It’s good for your overall health, boosts your sex life, helps your partner, improves both mind and body. Good for your overall health Orgasms are just plain good for your…
Read MoreSexual Performance Anxiety
It’s not just a guy thing…it happens to women too. We most often think of erectile disfunction when we conceptualize sexual performance anxiety. However, most people don’t realize that some women have a version of performance anxiety as well, though it presents differently. This idea came to me as I was listening to the Savage Lovecast episode…
Read MoreBetter Ways to Initiate Sex
Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…
Read MoreWomen & Painful Sex
If you are experiencing pain when having or attempting to have intercourse, you are certainly not alone. According to an article published in Harvard Health, “Millions of women experience pain before, during or after sexual intercourse. Many women suffer in silence and don’t seek the help they need, or they have trouble finding a clinician who…
Read MoreSexual Skill-Building in the age of COVID19 **adults only**
Whether you are sheltered in place with your partner/spouse, or FWB (friend with benefits), or are following the new sex advice coming from the Netherlands about the pandemic — singles are allowed one sex partner (buddy) to visit for the remainder of lockdown — you may hope to learn new sexual skills in the age…
Read MoreNegotiating Sex: Let’s talk…
Sex is a taboo subject. I know, believe me. We have been taught by parents, teachers, society, and other authorities that it’s so wrong, bad, dirty, disgusting and that it ought not be talked about aloud. Oh…and by the way, you should also be amazing at it, men know exactly what women want without any…
Read MoreAftercare – An Important (though often overlooked) Step
One of the most important aspects of sexual intimacy is often forgotten, missed, cut short, or has never been there from the beginning. Many people have never even heard of sexual aftercare.
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