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Better Ways to Initiate Sex
Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…
Read MoreCouples Communication
Disagreements within couples can be heated, intense, scary and painful at times. However, these same disagreements can also bring a couple much closer together and help cultivate a partnership by getting on the same page. Relationships are difficult in part because it is a bringing together of distinctly different people with very different upbringings. Of…
Read MoreRelationship Issues: Ask for Help
One of the main discussion points for both couples and individuals in a relationship is the challenges of asking for help. I apologize in advance for some of the broad generalizations made along gender-lines in the rest of this blog, but this topic is somewhat gendered in the way it is expressed. However, it is…
Read MoreFavorite Resources for Relationships, Intimacy, Anxiety & Depression
I would like to share some of my absolute favorite resources that I utilize myself and often share with clients. I return to these specific resources again and again. This is just a quick guide with links to resources I use for you to discover, explore, and make your own. For Relationships & Intimacy, I…
Read MoreTherapy Tidbits: How to Be Happy in a Relationship – Premarital Counseling
People in relationships often struggle to hold onto their own identity within the partnership. This is not necessarily gendered or specific to opposite sex relationships. A long-term relationship (LTR) is the coming together of two individuals choosing to live their lives together. It really isn’t the romantic notion of “two becoming one.” This idea seems…
Read MoreTherapy Tidbits #1: Refill Your Water Jug
We all have a figurative internalized water jug that we use to pour over others in need. You pour out a little water out for your partner, a little more water for your kid(s), for a friend or two, for a coworker…and then, before you know it, your water jug is empty and you have…
Read MoreWhen To Consider Seeing a Sex Therapist
What makes a certified sex therapist different than any other kind of therapist? It really comes down to an acknowledgment of the importance of sex in our lives and relationships, the ability to talk about sex in sessions, and continued education. Sex therapists make clients feel at ease when sharing concerns they have around sexual…
Read MoreBreast Cancer, Sexuality & Intimacy – Part III Let’s Keep Talking About Sex…
So many people have been socialized that sex is dirty, bad, or at the very least not to be talked about. This becomes a bit of a challenge for couples, especially when there is a cancer diagnosis and treatment, because things change. Sex and intimacy are affected. Bodies changes, desires change, what feels good or…
Read MoreBreast Cancer, Sexuality & Intimacy – Part II Let’s Talk About Sex…
Why is it so difficult to talk about sex? This topic seems to be one of the last taboo subjects left in our culture. Even though we are completely inundated with sexual material in the media all day long, it is still fairly taboo to speak about sex with your partner, friends, and even…
Read MoreFAIR FIGHTING FOR COUPLES
Arguing in couples can be heated, intense, scary and painful at times. However, it can also bring couples much closer together and help cultivate a partnership by getting on the same page. Relationships are difficult – it is a bringing together of two distinctly different people with two very different upbringing – of course there…
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