Ways to (Re)Connect Spiritually

I’ve been struggling with frozen shoulder (adhesive capsulitis) for nearly a year now, but the most painful time has been over the past 6 months. I haven’t been able to stick to my typical morning routine — cardio exercise and/or strength training; stretching or yoga; and walks — due to severe, chronic pain and limited…

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Self-sex is good for you…really

And, there’s even research to back it up. Self-sex is just a nice way of saying masturbation. And, yes…I am definitely saying that masturbation is healthy. It’s good for your overall health, boosts your sex life, helps your partner, improves both mind and body. Good for your overall health Orgasms are just plain good for your…

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Sexual Performance Anxiety

It’s not just a guy thing…it happens to women too. We most often think of erectile disfunction when we conceptualize sexual performance anxiety. However, most people don’t realize that some women have a version of performance anxiety as well, though it presents differently. This idea came to me as I was listening to the Savage Lovecast episode…

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Better Ways to Initiate Sex

Usually, it’s not quite enough just to say, “Hey, do you want to… *wink*wink?” What are some good ways to initiate some sexy time with your partner? As a sex therapist, I hear from so many women who share that their husbands or boyfriends don’t know how to initiate sex well, for them. It seems…

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Flu Shot Stopped My Period

Doctors say this year it is especially important to get the flu shot (influenza vaccine) because it would be devastating to get both the flu and COVID-19 at the same time. So, I listened and went to get my flu shot in early September. I just happened to be getting my period on that same…

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Ever Have a Dream About Your Ex?

Dream interpretation is a fascinating area of study and just plain fun. Some dreams can be powerful, healing and insightful. Some dreams may include messages to help you heal or move forward in life. They often help you focus inward and build introspection. Other dreams may just be dreams and either you don’t really even…

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Our Healthcare System is Broken (Especially for Women)

The United States healthcare system is broken and has failed me (and many others), especially when it comes to women’s health. I have repeatedly looked to Western Medicine to help with women’s health concerns and the doctors have either thrown pills at me, usually causing more problems than solutions, or dismissed me entirely. The current…

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Asking for Help Can Make Your Sex Life Better

For relationships to become true partnerships, we all need to learn how to let our partner(s) know what we’re thinking…they can’t read our minds. We need to be more open and curious. Ask more questions. Ask for help. This concept isn’t gendered. I work with many men, women, non-binary and transgender folks and they all…

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COVID19 Helps Some With Sexual Creativity

Dan Savage started incorporating a new positive sex or quarantine (pronounced like Valentine) story at the top of each Savage Lovecast episode, and I love them all. This week (episode #721) he received a story from a woman meeting a man for a second date at the beach. They discussed the idea of going snorkeling at dusk…

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