RELATIONSHIPS
Therapy Tidbits: How to Be Happy in a Relationship – Premarital Counseling
People in relationships often struggle to hold onto their own identity within the partnership. This is not necessarily gendered or specific to opposite sex relationships. A long-term relationship (LTR) is the coming together of two individuals choosing to live their lives together. It really isn’t the romantic notion of “two becoming one.” This idea seems…
Read MoreTherapy Tidbits #1: Refill Your Water Jug
We all have a figurative internalized water jug that we use to pour over others in need. You pour out a little water out for your partner, a little more water for your kid(s), for a friend or two, for a coworker…and then, before you know it, your water jug is empty and you have…
Read MoreWhen To Consider Seeing a Sex Therapist
What makes a certified sex therapist different than any other kind of therapist? It really comes down to an acknowledgment of the importance of sex in our lives and relationships, the ability to talk about sex in sessions, and continued education. Sex therapists make clients feel at ease when sharing concerns they have around sexual…
Read MoreBreast Cancer, Sexuality & Intimacy – Part II Let’s Talk About Sex…
Why is it so difficult to talk about sex? This topic seems to be one of the last taboo subjects left in our culture. Even though we are completely inundated with sexual material in the media all day long, it is still fairly taboo to speak about sex with your partner, friends, and even…
Read MoreBreast Cancer, Sexuality & Intimacy – Part I Overview
Breast cancer is currently the second most common form of cancer in the world, and the most common cancer for women. Treatments for breast cancer have become consistently more successful and survival rates for women with breast cancer are good overall. However there are sexual side effects and quality of life issues that emerge as…
Read MoreMINDFULNESS FOR BETTER SEX
You might be asking yourself – Are you kidding me? Is this a ploy to get me to read your blog? No. Mindfulness training can really be useful in gaining more pleasure from sex (and other aspects of life, of course). First, what is mindfulness? In a nutshell, mindfulness is a way of training your…
Read MoreSECRETS TO A HAPPY LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP – PART III
Another common misconception is that a long-term couple’s sex life remains as active and passionate as the day they met. If not, there is something wrong. Again, this is not the case. One way to keep the passion and desire alive in a long-term relationship is to plan it. Contrary to popular belief, you can…
Read MoreSECRETS TO A HAPPY LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP – PART II
Indulge yourself. This may seem counter-intuitive, but it works. Generally, we help care for one another in relationships, but this only truly works well when you are also continuing to care for and about yourself. Take the time to do something for you and only you at least once a week (I’d prefer once daily, but…
Read MoreSECRETS TO A HAPPY LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP – PART I
There are a few things that stand out when it comes to having a happy long-term relationship. This is the first of a series about secrets to a happy long-term relationship. One way to remain happy together is to be separate too. Having time and interests to yourself mean that you are autonomous and a…
Read MoreCULTIVATING GRATITUDE
Isn’t it interesting how easily we seem to absorb the negative things in life, yet the positives just slip away? It’s as though the compliments, positive feedback, and the small things that bring us joy in life just slips through our fingers like water. Why is it so hard to hold onto the positives, while…
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