Another common misconception is that a long-term couple’s sex life remains as active and passionate as the day they met.  If not, there is something wrong.  Again, this is not the case.  One way to keep the passion and desire alive in a long-term relationship is to plan it.  Contrary to popular belief, you can plan times to be passionate (in addition to being spontaneous).

Studies show that within long-term relationships, arousal is often secondary to getting started.  Often, women and even some men, do not have as much sexual desire until after they start “fooling around.”  So, just take the initiative or go with it even when you are not feeling particularly frisky.  You might be surprised.  (Note: If you do not become aroused after some time however, please do not continue.)

Kimberly Atwood is a psychotherapist in private practice in Doylestown, Pennsylvania. She specializes in working with men and women in their late teens, 20’s and 30’s dealing with eating disorders, sexual and relationship issues, anxiety, life transitions and personal growth.  Please visit www.Kimberlyatwood.com for more information.